Sunday, July 15, 2012

Random relationship thoughts

Been thinking a lot about what I want in a woman.

I hope that my regular readers, or new ones, will feel free to tell me when I am being unrealistic, or just an asshole, in this ongoing series.

The stuff that follows won't be in any particular order, maybe I will do that some time on the future.

My future partner must want to be a permanent part of my life. Call it marriage or civil union or living together or whatever you want.  I don't want to be someone's boyfriend. I don't want friends with benefits. I don't want to commute to see her on weekends. I want to be her spouse.

My future partner must make me feel sexy. Yeah that is a subjective thing but everyone knows what I mean. It doesn't mean that she is a smoking hot model. It just means that she knows how to make me feel like I am George Clooney or Brad Pitt when she wants to.

I want someone with a better credit rating(not hard) and at least within spitting distance of as much disposable income as I have. I am not rich but I am not poor either and I want to do the things as a couple that I like to do by myself without bankrupting us.

I want someone that has had all of the kids they want. They don't have to be all gone but I am not going to start a second family in my 50's.

I want someone that knows who they are. If you have some wild idea that "someday I want to chuck it all and do X" and you don't have a reasonable plan as to how to make that happen then it ain't gonna happen and I can't watch that happen to someone. Dreams are great and I will support you in making them come true but there has to be a way we can do it beyond wishing and hoping.

To be continued...


  1. Sounds perfectly reasonable. The problem is that these things are never perfectly reasonable... nor, for that matter, are they reasonably perfect.


  2. Yes, and to add to Paul Kimball's comment above, people do change even while they are in a relationship, can you deal with that? Fixing what is broken instead of throwing it out, can you do that?

    Bravo, Robsy! And we progress. --GC


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